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Kai wants to stay at home - help fund three months of care

Help Kai stay in his own home with three months of part-time care.

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James H. Palmer
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San Diego
I'm caring for my father, who's 91. After a fall and hip fracture Kai can no longer manage alone. A nursing home would cost far more than we have, and Kai desperately wants to stay at home. I work 25 hours a week and have cut back to look after him, but we need a part-time carer. Kai worked all of his life as a factory worker, and raised 4 children. Now we're trying to give some of that care back. Medication, a hospital bed and a carer for three months will make a huge difference. The carer will be employed through a registered agency and paid directly. I'll share the agency invoices. Where the $4,250 goes: โ€ข Part-time carer (three months): $3,000 โ€ข Medication and prescriptions: $810 โ€ข Hospital bed and mattress rental: $440 Glad we found this place.

Updates from James

  1. We're at 17% thanks to 16 of you. we've booked the dates and paid the deposit. More news soon.

  2. Thank you all. We're at 13% now ($557). I'm honestly stunned. we've started the first stage.

  3. Update from San Diego: the plan for hospital bed and mattress rental is now scheduled. We're at 7% of the goal. Thank you for believing in us.

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  • Any update on how things are going in San Diego?

    • Hang in there. Hope this works out for you. My sister had a similar thing happen so this one hit home

      • You're not alone, James. Shared it with a few friends. This is the second need I've supported on here and the first that made me cry

        • Sending strength. Everyone deserves a bit of help sometimes. The breakdown of costs made it easy to trust.

          • So sorry you're going through this. Hope the treatment goes smoothly and recovery is quick. Read this on the bus and kept thinking about it all day. All the best.

            • hope it all works out, James. Look after yourselves too, caregivers need rest. I'll check back for the next update

              • Can I help in a way that isn't money? I'm near San Diego.

                • James H. PalmerOwnerAnswerPhoto verified

                  Thank you. If you're in San Diego I'll say if something practical comes up. For now sharing this is great. Thanks, that means a lot.

              • Good luck, James. Shared it with a few friends. I'll check back for the next update. Thinking of San Diego.

                • Is there a list of costs somewhere? Just curious how it adds up for Kai.

                  • Thanks for sharing this. Hope you get there. Read this on the bus and kept thinking about it all day. Thinking of San Diego.

                    • So sorry you're going through this, James. It takes guts to ask. Well done!

                      • Hope it all works out, James. Hope this works out for you. Don't lose heart. A few weeks ago I was in a hole too and it changed faster than I expected. Love from San Antonio.

                        • keep going. Get well soon. Our whole street has been following this since the weekend. Blessings.

                          • You're not alone. Hope the doctors have good news.

                            • so sorry you're going through this. Hope you get there. My neighbor had a similar thing happen so this one hit home.

                              • Thinking of you and your family. It takes guts to ask. Well done. I'll check back for the next update.

                                • Reading this made my day a bit heavier but I'm glad I did. Please keep us posted. Thinking of San Diego.

                                  • Best of luck. Hope the treatment goes smoothly and recovery is quick. Don't lose heart. A few weeks ago I was in a hole too and it changed faster than I expected. Take care

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