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Care for Zoë, 80: help cover a carer and medication in Haarlem

Zoë can't afford the care She needs after a diagnosis of dementia; we're asking for $3,750.

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Jan Van der Meer
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Haarlem
I'm caring for my mother, who's 80. After a diagnosis of dementia Zoë can no longer manage alone. A nursing home would cost far more than we have, and Zoë desperately wants to stay at home. I work 40 hours a week and have cut back to look after her, but we need a part-time carer. Zoë worked all of her life as a factory worker, and raised 4 children. Now we're trying to give some of that care back. Medication, a hospital bed and a carer for eight months will make a huge difference. The carer will be employed through a registered agency and paid directly. I'll share the agency invoices. Where the $3,750 goes: • Mobility aids and bathroom adaptations: $180 • Part-time carer (eight months): $3,200 • Hospital bed and mattress rental: $370 You're what makes this possible, and I'll never forget it. - Jan

Updates from Jan

  1. Good news. Because of your gifts ($2,839 in total) I made the first payment toward mobility aids and bathroom adaptations. Still a way to go but it feels less lonely.

  2. Quick update: $1,852 raised so far (49%). the plan for hospital bed and mattress rental is now scheduled. Receipts coming as soon as I have them.

  3. Thank you all. We're at 29% now ($1,079). I'm honestly stunned. I met with the care agency and confirmed the amounts.

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    “Be well. I'm in Spanish Town, thinking of you.”

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    “Hang in there. Thought of Zoë all day after reading this.”

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    “Hope this helps. Thought of Zoë all day after reading this. - Southampton”

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    “Happy to help. Please keep us posted. - Beersheba”

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    “Good luck. My mother told me about this one. - Charlotte”

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    “Hope this helps. Hope the November deadline works out. - Niterói”

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    “Thinking of you - Atlanta”

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    “You got this. I'm in Hyderabad, thinking of you.”

  • Roberto H. Villalobos 🇲🇽 · $10

    “Blessings. Small amount but sent with love. - Coyoacán”

  • Janhavi S. Chavan 🇮🇳 · $20

    “Thought of Zoë all day after reading this. - Nashik”

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  • Is there a list of costs somewhere? Just curious how it adds up for Zoë.

    • Jan Van der MeerOwnerAnswerID verified

      Everything on the list is an amount I've been quoted or invoiced. mobility aids and bathroom adaptations comes first ($180) and I'll update the page as each thing gets paid. Ask me anything else.

  • Nazia Shazia LashariPhoto verified

    Best of luck. Gave what I could, wish it was more. Love from Bronx.

    • Is there anything that isn't money that would help Zoë?

      • Jan Van der MeerOwnerAnswerID verified

        Thank you. If you're in Haarlem I'll say if something practical comes up. For now sharing this is great. Thanks for asking.

    • Sending good thoughts, Jan. Hope this works out for you

      • I've been in a tough spot myself and it does get easier. I'm in nursing myself and wanted you to know we're cheering for you. God bless.

        • Cora S. DuranPhoto verified

          Hope the doctors have good news. Greetings from El Paso

          • Thinking of you, Jan. Look after yourselves too, caregivers need rest. Don't lose heart. A few weeks ago I was in a hole too and it changed faster than I expected

            • Keep going, Jan. Gave what I could, wish it was more. This is the second need I've supported on here and the first that made me cry.

              • Leah RussellID verified

                Stay strong, Jan. Gave what I could, wish it was more. Don't lose heart. A few weeks ago I was in a hole too and it changed faster than I expected. Thinking of Haarlem.

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